If their son died of a disease, they may have asked that donations be made to an organization in lieu of flowers. You can usually check on the funeral home’s website.

White lillies might be more appropriate than roses. Ask the florist.

You can search a floral site like Teleflora for ideas for pre-made arrangements. I think all white would look nice, especially if he was young. And check with your local florist as well, and they will give you good ideas in your price range. You can give them a price point and if you want, an idea of certain flowers and colors and they will take it from there.

sympathy flowers….see here…

you could get a few of the friends to go in with you to get some like this…. get them from your neighborhood florist, tho, not on line….

Most floral websites have photos and prices. Martha Stewart at 1-800-Flowers has her own line of discrete arrangements from 39-89 dollars.
I sent this type of arrangement to my friend when his mother died. It was very nice. Pink Lilies.

buy something pretty that she likes or consider a donation to an agency that she supports.

Personally, I donate to a Charity of their choice.

If you feel you must send flowers, a planter with fresh cut flower is nice.

I always give living plants. Something easy to maintain. I still have rubber tree growing from my son’s funeral 18 years ago. I also made cuttings and gave to both of my daughters.

There is nothing wrong with buying white roses.

The best thing is to telephone the undertaker who is taking care of the arrangements with any questions like this. They will advise you about the family’s wishes with regard to floral tributes.

What ever you decide, your gesture will be appreciated by the bereaved.

There are no rules for this. You’ll see all sorts of flowers at funerals. Most folks just call the florist, tell them how much they want to spend and whether they want to send an arrangement or a potted plant, and the florist takes care of everything else.

deep purple lilly is a flower that represents passing on